Living and Understanding my loved one suffering from PTSD

Hello lovergirl. I was diagnosed with PTSD almost a month ago. Everybody was telling me this is what I had but I wouldnt allow myself to get the treatment I needed. It took me trying to harm myself and be made to get help. I am with you, i am willing to give my support and get support as well. My name is Rochell and it is nice to meet you.

Hello female31. It is very nice to meet you. As I have learned over the past year and a half, it can be a very hard thing to live with, but it is possible. I would enjoy hearing more about you. It helps so much to have someone to talk to. I don't have the disease, but my boyfriend does. Oh and by the way my name is sherry... lol

Hi Sherry. Hang in there! I'm stuggling to survive this (in the words of cartoons) &^$%#*(()*& sickness too. My husband of 30 years has non-combat related PTSD. IT is So hard to be what he needs and still get what I need. I've looked for support groups locally, but the only ones around are military related. We have 6 major hospitals in the area including a teaching hospital and a VA, but the only place to go is the VA, and you or the PTSD sufferer needs to be miliary or miltary related. We are not.

Sometimes it feels like it's a one sided battle, but I know its not. I support you in your positive attatude!

Hello Sherry. My name is Lu. I have been with my husband off and on for the last 20 plus years. During our last separation (which lasted about 8 years) he finally was diagnosed with PTSD by a professional. He was a cop for over 15 years and saw some of the worse things you can ever imagine. This disorder is a hard one to handle sometimes, but at least he has reached out and gone thru therapy (some). It's hard to not take his actions personally, since he tends to take most of his anger and frustration out on me. I have learned to be as supportive as possible, but also I have learned to take care of myself as well. I try to stay updated on all the latest info regarding PTSD. One of the mistakes I have made in the past is to allow his PTSD to drag me down which has lead to anger on my part. There are times he needs his space and I am glad to let him have it. He is not violent, just can be verbally abusive at times. There are also times he basically "shuts down" and there is no point trying to get him to talk, it just makes him more angry. We started an "experiment" where we talk and pray about situations in our marriage. It's from "I want an awesome marriage" - you can google it. It has really helped us. Most people think I am nuts because I am with him after a long on again off again relationship. I do love the man and I have learned to love myself as well. If he stays busy (he is on disability) doing things around the house/property or helping others, he seems to not have as many episodes. Hope this helps.

I myself was diagnosed with it in 2007. My PTSD comes from an assult that occured at my Job. My family has issues with me when I am having an episode. I will start screaming, using vilgar language, be very degrading. I dont mean for it, I dont realize it happens until after it is done. sometimes the littles thing like a sock on the floor will blow me up. I dont mean for this to happen, I dont even understand why it happens. And when they say they dont remember, they really dont. The brain blocks stressors out and i wont even remember what happen.. My boys are quick to tell me after it happens. I apoligize and move on. Anything that they may say during a "spell" understand they wpnt remember it, and dont hold them on that grudge. Cause we really dont remember

Wow thank you so very much, you guys made me cry! Lu I will look that up and I have read where a lot of people said to just give up on them and run away as fast as you can, but I can't do that, I love him too much and I know he doesn't mean it. I have seen everything you have said. Mine isn't violent either, but verbal yes and I try my hardest to just let it go.... the bad part is, he can't work either and they keep turning him down for s.s. and that was even with an attorney. He is filing again, so hopefully it works this time. Countrygirl, I am sorry your family has issues with you and you having this disease. Its wrong and its just cause they don't understand what your going through. I pray for both of you and I thank you so much for your support, it makes me feel better! May God Bless you and Keep you safe.