Anxiety attack right now !!!

By Countrygirl on Sun, 02-26-12, 18:36

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That bastard tonight. My little brother and his family live with me in my house that i pay the m ortgage, electric blah blah blah on. He is one of these men who thinks the world owes him everything. Well tonight we got into a verbal fight. I told him to get out my house, the fghting went on and on back and forth until i started laughing and said ok im done, he told me i was a f...ing head case and needed help, im a nut, a slum lord and all this crap. Know he and his wife 2 kids have lived rent free for the past 6 years, i do believe he is the one with mental issues and He throws me in to anxiety attacks and i shake all over and start to hyperventalate. this is scary stuff that happens. Anyone that hollars at me makes me shut down and i usually ball up. Why do i have to have this ptsd crap. I cant defend myself causde i shut down.

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By CK on Wed, 02-29-12, 10:30

If he is the cause of strain, then perhaps it is time that he moves out. Six years of generosity definately puts you in the clear.

Sometimes I believe in as many as six impossible things before breakfast-Alice in Wonderland

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By chases squirrels on Sun, 03-04-12, 11:47

my savior,

It is hard to deal with stressful issues to begin with, but it is even harder when it involves family members. I am so sorry that you are going through such a difficult time right now. You may want to take a step back from the situation and ask yourself what you want to do. Things seem to have reach a breaking point and changes need to be made. You need to protect yourself and do what is right for you and your family. I know that for me the hardest thing was to relaize that my family does not always have my best interests in mind. You need to protect yourself and making a change at this time could help all of you.

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Fear can hold you prisoner. Hope can set you free.

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By wolverine1997 on Sun, 03-04-12, 12:02

It is obvious that there are major communicaion issues between the two of you. It seems that you are a caring person who values family or you wouldn't have taken your brother and his family inn. But you still have have issues within yourself like the inability to stand up for yourself when challenged, particularly when that person is someone you care about. This is something you need to address yourself, nobody can and will do it for you. The situation you are in now probably arose out of the fact that when you accepted your brother and his family inn there were probably never a serious discussion about boundaries, rules and responsibilites and never discussed an exit strategy, i.e. how long will this be going on. Without these discussions hurts turn into resentments and those tend to stay with us a long time and are relly hard to get past. I know because I can more easily advise someone than do for myself. Good luck and work on your communication skills, both to yourself and others.

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